Thursday, 24 September 2009
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Weird Comparison ^__^
I wrote this in order to gather my thoughts for today's lecture on marriage. My professor asked everyone in the class to bring a tangible object that, in our opinion, represents marriage. I brought my big, red, Blue Magic heart throw pillow as my tangible symbol and am hoping this explanation fits the purpose.
Choosing this throw pillow, I have no other explanation as to why this is a symbol or representation of marriage to me but this simple comparison:
Though this may not apply to the boys here in class, think of this pillow as something, whatever it may be, you have in your room and which you grew up with. You have a pillow in your bed, a pillow that deep in your heart, no matter how embarrassing it may be to the eyes of your friends, is special to you. Every time you come home from a long day at school or work, all you’d want to do is just plop onto your bed and pull that pillow close to you. You cuddle it, savoring the softness of its texture, and instantly fall asleep on it.
Now, think about the time you cried because of a painful break-up with an ex or a fight between you and your best friend. What do you normally do whenever you lock yourself in your room and want to cry all night because of the anger and pain caused by the situation? Since there’s no more boyfriend to cry to, no best friend to share your pains with, you turn to your pillow. Your tears trickle and fall onto it, soaking it, you scream and punch it as you envision your ex or best friend’s face in it, but it calms you and makes you feel better because you were able to scream, yell, punch, and cry to it. It doesn’t yell back at you, it doesn’t criticize you, but listens to you and allows you to hold it while you pour your heart out.
This throw pillow doesn’t symbolize the actual idea of marriage per se. I brought this throw pillow as a symbol of what you have once you are married. Considering all factors, you got married to a person who has been with you for a long time. This person accepts you for who you are, both bad and good sides, is with you in your triumphs and failures, listens to you when you have problems or are angry at someone, and of course helps you up when you’ve fallen.
You might be wondering, “What’s the difference? Even if we’re not married, I can still have someone who cares for me, believes in me, and does all that other stuff anyway.” The difference, ladies and gentlemen, is the fact that you two have committed yourself to one another and that he or she is gonna be there no matter what; no matter how long and no matter where you go. If you’re just live-in partners, there’s no assurance that the person you’re with isn’t just going to walk out the door when he or she’s had enough of your yelling and screaming. There’s no guarantee that the person is going to stick around when you’re experiencing a crisis in your life. A husband or a wife is more than just someone who shares in your finances, who you have great sex with, or who you are madly in love with. He or she is a person who respects you, who believes in you, who accepts you, and who is willing to go through everything just to grow old with you.
Just like a pillow sitting there in your bed, no matter how far you go, no matter how late you come home, no matter how hard you scream and punch and yell at them, and no matter how tired you are after a long day at work that you just want to lie down and sleep, that pillow is still going to be there to cushion your hardships, pains, and sorrows. That person, that someone you’ve declared your dying love to, will be there when you feel the need to squeeze someone, when you want to shout for joy because of a promotion, or even when you want to just hold him or her in your arms and dream about the future with that person.
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